If you feel yourself at that kind of crossroads…

And you know you want more out of your life…

You’re in the right place, and joining forces with a coach can help you move forward with intention and focus — while making your growth journey fun.

I became obsessed with figuring out ‘what was next’ when I was just 12 when my family moved to the US from Kenya.

I had to tap into an extraordinary power within myself. I had to evolve. I had to adapt. Out of necessity, I became extremely resourceful and learned how to navigate unfamiliar territory. I let go of old ways of doing things that didn’t work in this new foreign land.

Changing your life isn’t all that different! In order to leave one version of yourself behind and shift into a new one, you’ve got to let go of fears, old patterns of behavior, and limiting beliefs.

Hi, I’m Lul Haji, a licensed mental health professional and Certified Professional Life Coach with more than 13 years of experience and more than 6 certifications including Integrated Attachment Theory certification, Clinical hypnotherapy, Certified Eye Movement Desensitization and reprocessing, Certified Dialectical behavioral therapy, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and Certified Clinical Anxiety Treatment.

Throughout my own life and extensive training I’ve learned how and where we pick up these limiting beliefs about ourselves early on in life. Those beliefs get practiced on a daily basis over decades of our lives. They become a sort of home to us.

Some of those beliefs hurt us more than they help us. You might have gotten the message as a kid that you’re not good enough, not lovable, or shouldn’t intrude by taking up space in your family, school, or friend groups.

These beliefs go on to limit you to a life where you are ‘well behaved’ according to others yet unhappy and uncomfortable within yourself.

The result? Dissatisfying relationships, unfulfilling work, and a life that isn’t everything you know it could be.

Many limiting beliefs are related to attachment wounds or in other words, they are intertwined with how you build a relationship with yourself and with others. And everything in life depends on relationships. In fact, studies have shown that the quality of our relationships are the strongest predictor of how happy we are in life.

When attachment wounds are running the show, we struggle with imposter syndrome, distraction, boredom, fear of higher levels of success, and fear of failure. Cycles of people pleasing, performing, and perfectionism keep us from experiencing authentic connections personally, professionally, romantically, and platonically.

No matter how much effort we put in, we can’t seem to get the peace, satisfaction, and purpose out that we so deeply desire!

Many of my clients with attachment wounds and limiting beliefs about themselves have achieved great success in some area of their lives — but they often feel stuck or blocked from achieving the things that are most important and meaningful to them. In coaching, we find the roots of this self-sabotage together.

Here’s what I want you to know: no matter how privileged or marginalized you are, no matter how educated or street-smart you are, no matter how accomplished or a work-in-progress you are — you’re still a whole person with thoughts and feelings and challenges to overcome! And all people deserve help meeting their unique needs and overcoming obstacles to the life they desire no matter how ‘big’ or ‘small’ they might seem.

Once our survival level needs are met in our hierarchy of needs, we get to move on to higher levels of satisfaction in life and sometimes those are the places we struggle most. We feel unworthy, isolated, and like our challenges are invisible. This is where a coach can help.